Apathy is defined as the absence of emotion. It’s white noise. Dead air. You feel like a part of tasteless tofu. Not happy. Not sad. Not angry. And certainly not passionate.
You probably heard people say they knew they were out of love when they no longer got angry. The relationship was flat, love had disappeared and it was no longer worth the effort of anger.
10 ways to change if you are an apathetic person
1. Start with perspective
Apathy is a temporary state of being. It doesn’t define you. You are not lazy, heartless, stupid, boring, unmotivated or another label that you give yourself while you feel apathetic.
Apathy does not define who you are, exactly how you feel now. You will not feel forever.
2. Define the cause
If you can, look for the trigger or cause of your apathy. Was there an event that finally took the wind out of your sail?
Do you feel hopeless about something big in your life? Is there a pattern of negative thinking that you stop?
Think deeply about why you feel apathetic and whether there is a perceptible cause. There may not be, but if that is, it is important to know.
3. Change the things you can do
If you recognize a cause or trigger for your apathy, is there something that can be done about it? What adjustments can you make or actions that you could take to remove or reduce the cause?
Write this down and start brainstorming real ways to take action. Just taking control over small pieces of the cause or trigger will offer you a sense of control over your life, which can help breaking apathy.
4. Create small disruptions
Whether you know the cause for your apathy or not, start creating small disturbances in your life and schedule. Shake things a bit. Do things in a different order in the morning.
Go inside earlier to work. Talk to a new person. Just break out of your regular routine. You can also catch your daily routine, although sometimes reassuring, in apathy and boredom.
5. Create a mood
Put yourself in situations and with people where you feel the most energetic as often as possible. Is there a room in your house that has the most “positive energy” for you? Spend time in that room.
Do music feel happier? Then play more music. Are there people who cancel your mind, make you laugh and the best in you? Then deliberately spend time with those people.
Place yourself in environments that do not feed your apathy.
6. Make a list of previous pleasure
Sit down and think of everything in your past that brought you to life with excitement and enthusiasm. Make a list of situations and events, both in your personal and professional life.
Then name the specific elements of those situations that promoted good feelings in addition to each situation. For example, if it was a work project, you could mention that you feel appreciated; The creativity included; It created cooperation.
Tease the feelings and values that promoted these events that made you feel so good.
7. Find the low -hanging fruit
Now look at your life to see where you might overlook situations that can promote the same feelings and values. They can be in your current work, lifestyle or relationships.
See if there are places where you might focus a little more attention and time to re -calculate feelings of involvement and motivation, or at least reduce apathy.
8. Choose one thing
If you have flushed with ideas and interests, but you are not sure which to pursue or invest time (hence your apathy), then match them with the values and feelings that you have sketched in Point #6.
Which of these interests have the most potential to create the same involvement and enthusiasm that you felt in the past?
If you still don’t know for sure, that’s okay. We are rarely ‘completely’ for sure of everything. Just choose one to concentrate on for a while.
9. Break it off
Because you feel apathetic, you don’t have much energy to tackle a large, multi -layered project, especially if you are not sure if this is what you want to pursue for the long term.
So the interest split in the smallest possible action steps that are manageable but are somewhat challenging. For example, if the goal is to write a book, give yourself the goal to write for five minutes every day or to write a section per day, making it the best paragraph you can write.
Take small, manageable, moving, somewhat challenging actions every day. Then go in to do these actions Every day for 6 weeks.
10. More information about habits
Understanding from apathy includes forcing change. You force it in well -considered, but small and manageable steps.
As you begin to practice this change and become more skilled and become more disciplined, you will feel better about yourself and you will have more energy and enthusiasm for what you do – especially if it is something that supports your values, suitcases and interests.
Applying change is in fact creating a series of new habits. Forming habits includes special skills that is simple but important to understand.
Many people fail to create habits because they do not understand the simple method to make habits stick. Learn the method and you have the tools to break out of apathy.